Dispersing testimonials - Mumbai

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Anonymous said...

hi i agree i am kind of late but there have been a LOT of comments to previous posts that i find VERY disturbing.

the reason that i am leaving my comment attached to this post is that i feel it has more chances of being heard in a newer post.

regarding the "unwanted" sticker and the following picture of some guy and some balloons- in the comments section to this post there were some people who felt extremely disturbed that this man's picture was on the blog. apparently, he was being "publicaly lynched" and disgraced. i would like to point out that if he was in a PUBLIC space and eve teasing a woman/women then his intention was to disgrace her in PUBLIC space.

here's the deal. When a person bombs a place or someone steals something or someone else runs cons/scams etc they have commited a crime. sometimes their pictures are published in newspapers/magazines or shown on tv - all these are PUBLIC meduims. the reason - these people have commited a crime and it is useful for the rest of us to know that we might want to be cautious in our dealings with these people should we encounter them at some future stage.

eve teasing IS a crime. the man in the picture is an offender and all women who visit this site have a RIGHT to know this.

if it his "right" to letch at women then women also have a right to know about his intentions.

Anonymous said...

another thing. across several posts there have been commnets about women in western clothes. apparently, women in western clothes are "asking for it".


According to this grand theory women dressed in indian attire (example - sari/salwaar kameez) should never in their lives experience sexual encounters. most people's mothers and grandmothers dress in indian attire. how could your fathers/grandfathers EVER be sexually attracted to them? BUT STILL THEY WERE. they had sex. this is how you were born. SHEESH. USE YOUR BRAINS.

if you have still missed the point - CLOTHES HAVE NOTHING to do with CONSENT. (this applies to the Rakhi Sawant remarks as well).

Anonymous said...

one more thing.

regarding this whole business of public interventions where women stand and stare back at the starer.

there are SO MANY MEN who are JUST STANDING on Indian streets and staring at women. So why are there people protesting if WOMEN choose to JUST STAND on streets and stare back at men? hypocritical, double standard.

there is another angle to this. many believe that by standing on a street and just staring back at men women are "inviting" attention or "attracting" eve-teasers.

i am a girl. i have participated in an intervention. and i can tell you one thing. i get groped/letched/whistled/felt up while i am WALKING on a street. i get groped/letched/whistled/felt up when i am TRAVELLING inside a bus. i get groped/letched/whistled/felt up when i am in a SHOPPING IN A CROWDED place. i get groped/letched/whistled/felt up when i am in a LONELY space as well. if i leave my house on ANY GIVEN DAY at ANY GIVEN TIME i KNOW that i will be sexually harrassed by a stranger before i return home.

at all the incidents i have described i have been MINDING MY OWN BUSINESS. i am not LOOKING TO "CATCH" AN EVE TEASER. and yet i encounter several of them, no matter what.


So. if a group of women are JUST STANDING in some place then it is NO DIFFERENT.

STANDING is NOT a crime.

Anonymous said...

The problem is that we don’t see the man doing a thing! Are we to assume that his action in this photograph indicate that he some how harassed some one? And NOBODY IS SAYING THAT HARASMENT OF WOMEN IN THE PUBLIC SPHERE IS NOT A REALITY but you can not fight fire with fire, so as to speak. The mode of protest CAN NOT and SHOULD NOT violate someone else's rights. Rights to privacy, to a fair hearing before you parade him/her in a public sphere.

Beaten horse

Anonymous said...

anonymous/beaten horse -

you have missed my point. i am going to repeat it for your benefit. When a person bombs a place or someone steals something or someone else runs cons/scams etc they have commited a crime. sometimes their pictures are published in newspapers/magazines or shown on tv - all these are PUBLIC meduims. the reason - these people have commited a crime and it is useful for the rest of us to know that we might want to be cautious in our dealings with these people should we encounter them at some future stage.

when these people's pictures appear on your television screen or in a newspaper or magazine THEY ARE NOT SHOWN ENGAGING THEMSELVES IN THE CRIME THEY HAVE BEEN ACCUSED OF. Why should a person who has committed a crime against women be treated any differently?

Anonymous said...

The difference is...when their pictures are shown in magazines and on TV, they are accompanied with an explanation of what they were doing to deserve that. In this specific case (the balloon pic) all you have done is stick the label onto him, without explaining his crime. If he was eve teasing, you could atleast have mentioned how exactly he was doing it. By simply posting the picture without explanations, the effect is that you yourself have become the judge, jury and executioner.


Anonymous said...

beebo -
in the blog post there is an "unwanted" sticker covering various behaviours that women percieve as sexual harrassment.

immediately below the text of the sticker there is a picture of the man.

below that, the blogger's text reads that this person won the sticker.

if this was a newspaper his picture would appear with accompanying text. if this was television, his picture would appear with accompanying voice over. this is a blog, and the picture, accompanied by a sticker plus the text is how the blogger has represented the story.

Anonymous said...

aarthi -

i understand your point about looking being subjective. some people may like being looked at. others may not. i completely agree with you.

the sticker in question says UNWANTED looking. let's say someone is looking at you. let us say you are in a public space and a stranger is looking at you. if you LIKE being looked at/WANT to get to know this person better/want to let this person know that you ENJOY them looking, there would be ways for you to express this. for instance, you may smile back at the person. or you may go up to them, introduce yourself, strike up a conversation.

however, let us say this person is looking at you and you DO NOT WANT their attention/it makes you uncomfortable etc. there are ways to respond to this as well. you may look away. you may move away. or you may give them an "unwanted" sticker to let them know how you feel. therfore, once you have given a person these cues then regardless of what their intention may have been, they need to STOP looking at you and making you uncomfortable. a no is a no is a no.

i hope you understand the point i am making.

i dont think the sticker is about outlawing looking. it is addressed at UNWANTED looking. if a woman feels uncomfortable with the way someone is looking at her, she has a right to let this person know how she feels.

crisna da turtle said...

again, the classic question of whether or not should looks be considered "Sexual Harassment" and I would strongly say NO...
In fact, as I've accentuated elsewhere in the group meets and on the chat windows, I guess the words/phrase 'Looking', 'Staring' and 'Unsolicited Conversation' should be pulled off...
Its quite possible that you do these three things and at the same time, not 'Offend' the other person and make him/her feel "harassed". Think about it. If a (wo)man approaches you and strikes a casual conversation (void of 'bad' intentions and filthy language), do you think you are really being tormented by h(im/er)???

Also, as aarthi said, the entire 'looking/gazing' is indeed, a very dicey area and we should be extremely careful while dealing with it


Anonymous said...

crisna da turtle

thanks for bringing that point up :)

it is entirely possible that you may not feel harrassed by any of the behaviours listed in the sticker.

the sticker does not work in isolation.

like i mentioned in my previous comment, if you ARE feeling harrassed by someone who directs any of the listed actions towards you, then they receive the sticker, as a means of letting them know how their actions may be affecting you.

atleast this is how i have understood the sticker to work. if i have got it all wrong, then i apologise. Jasmeen could clarify all doubts about the sticker and its functions to end the confusion.

J said...

thanks Svetha

its not about looking but ways of looking..how do you look, or even glance?

it is in the intention that gets revealed through the act. most often in eve teasing there is nothing tangible for us to report, talk of...it is grey...and lets get talking about that. yes gazing, looking, glancing, staring, leching are all grey areas. no proof, just a pair of eyes that are saying everything you just felt.

The sticker is a sticker that one could stick on, give to the one that has violated you..

Anonymous said...

hey jasmeen,

saw a story in the Newyork Times website about harassment on the Newyork subway, and women taking pictures of flashers! that reminded me of you. can't seem to link to it though - i think your spam filter kicks in. Anyway, thought you'd be interested.


Anonymous said...

hey jasmeen,
thought you'd be interested in this story about harassment on the newyork tube, and what women are doing abt it (including taking photographs). tried to post this yesterday as well. but i think i got filtered out. here's the link

hemangini said...

beaten horse, bee bo:

hold those thoughts, you've made some vital points.

Anonymous said...

Svetha or Sangs alike, you should see some psychiatrist (fultoo dimaag game). This is a non-sense as oppose to some project.

Mans or whatever and Svetha alike people should consider being lucky as there asses have not been slapped yet with million dollar law suit or google has not brought their site down (lack of complaints) on "Invasion Of Provacy".

Just a wanderer!