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Hi Ashraf's penby posing the questions you are not...

2008-03-23T01:24:00.000+05:30

Hi Ashraf's pen

by posing the questions you are not disagreeing with us but questing precisely what we are attempting to as well.

every stare is not a crime- let us be able to distinguish the nature of the stare/ gaze/ look/ glance

it is also important to know or understand where the one that feels victimized is coming from- where are her perceptions stemming from.

blank noise attempts to bring different perceptions to dialogue.

when i describe someone's behaviour as annoying- it is in retrospect- ater reflection i was able to distinguish between feeling sexually intimidated by a male stranger vs being annoyed/ irritated by a male stranger. both should not have happened. nor should have the group of girls laughed at you or stared at you- but for you= was that annoying or intimidating or sexually threatening?

I am someone who supported your blog in 2006 but n...

2008-03-23T00:34:00.000+05:30

I am someone who supported your blog in 2006 but now I do disagree with where u are taking the debate.

What is eve-teasing?
Where exactly is the line crossed?
Because just looking at a girl cannot be a crime.

If there is a pretty girl I would gaze at her appreciating the beauty. In fact many times I go and put in a line of praise to the lady herself,"Excuse me, but I have to say you are looking very pretty"? Th girl normally says thanks and it ends. I don't end up in jail.

I will take two test cases "Take a pretty girl and take a disfigured guy. Seat them both in a restaurant. Both will get stared at."

Now the question is is the crime equally sever in both cases.

Would you deny that gals would stare at a handsome guy in a restaurant.

So can that guy take a pic of the gal and post it as unwanted.

What is a simple lack of social skills becomes eve-teasing.

I am not justifying eve-teasing. "Hang the bastards for all I care".
The attempt by some elements to blame women for sexual crimes is an unforgivably atavistic move.There can be simply no justification for crimes against women.Harassment is harassment and if its against women ,its even more henious.

But let every stare not be a crime.

You yourself called the antics of one guy as annoying.

The other day I saw a group of gals stare at me and then laugh out loud for whatever reason. It was repeated and it was annoying as hell.

So set the bar a little higher else rather than making eve-teasing a crime ,you will end up forever debating what constitutes eve-teasing .Dont find non-existent enemies and dangers.

For as Eisenhower said"There can be no winning the war of the sexes.There is too much fraternizing with the enemy"

I also have a few burning questions to ask.(1) Do ...

2008-03-16T01:08:00.000+05:30

I also have a few burning questions to ask.

(1) Do you believe that you are being extremely unfair to the people pictured in your "Unwanted" section ? They have no chance to reply to your charges.
(2) Do you think that if someone is committing a crime or an eve-teasing incident by merely looking at you ?
(3) If the answer to (2) is Yes, then do you think, you are also committing a crime or an adam-teasing incident by looking at the man while he was looking at you ?
(4) Do you censor comments that do not have any obscenities but denounce the approach that you are taking ?
(5) Do you not think that you are committing several illegal acts when you put up defamatory photographs of people based on your subjective analysis of the situation ?

Thank you.

- A rational, liberal man

to all above- the rarely asked burning questions w...

2008-03-11T12:49:00.000+05:30

to all above- the rarely asked burning questions will be answered in a week. sorry . with organizing events for march 8- we got a bit delayed in reverting to this blog post- its coming up- that's a promise.

Burning Question 1:Look at the pictures from your ...

2008-03-11T11:40:00.000+05:30

Burning Question 1:

Look at the pictures from your “walk the night”-

http://blog.blanknoise.org/search/label/walk%20the%20night

In some of the pictures, (especially the ones of young adult girls), the tip of the Blank Noise arrow ends right near the breast region. It is as if the arrow is pointing towards that region. (An innocent coincidence or deliberate?) And you claim that the aim of the arrow is to make men look at your faces. Which planet are you living on?

Burning Question 2:

Look at the pictures of your T-shirts -

http://blog.blanknoise.org/search/label/blank%20noise%20t%20shirts

This sure is going to attract the attention of even an innocent eye towards the breast region. Did it ever occur to you that the question 'KYA DEKH RAHE HO?' on the T-shirts can be interpreted as an open invitation to look at the breasts? (At least for the sake of reading what is written). And you claim that it is meant to be a response to staring auto-wallahs? Are you serious? Who got this idea anyway? Most traditional Indian girls would think twice before wearing these T-shirts.

Such “solutions” look more like childish pranks rather than serious attempts to address eve-teasing.

Burning Question 3:

When do you plan to answer the burning questions that you received?

When we talk of the acid attacks or likewise when ...

2008-02-24T12:44:00.000+05:30

When we talk of the acid attacks or likewise when a woman says no, I think that it is because basically when a man is refused what he wants his mardaangi... which is all he has coz that is his ego... is challenged. So, to just show off his strength these attacks happen.
And when you talk about... talking to me and why they stare etc... I feel that most of the men think... that its the so called provocative dressing that calls for all the trouble for a woman.

To blue flame -Talk to one of her female friends f...

2008-02-23T12:54:00.000+05:30

To blue flame -

Talk to one of her female friends first.

Thanks for the question blue flame- that's a trick...

2008-02-20T12:17:00.000+05:30

Thanks for the question blue flame- that's a tricky one and has created much debate on the blog's comment section in the past.

it really is contextual. it depends on how you approach- what is the tone, the context. one has to instinctively soak in the dynamics of the situation and then decide the move.

Ofcourse many people have met in public- which brings us to our next blog event proposed by hemangini...

you CAN tell if someone is attracted to you- their openness/ willingness should perhaps be your first step before approach?

Am curious to see what the others have to say to this...

i will be quick to reply this one- NO. The photos ...

2008-02-20T12:08:00.000+05:30

i will be quick to reply this one- NO. The photos are not meant to be read literally. in the post I am also referring to the role of men as 'wooers'. They are however representing re inforced male behaviour..

Do you think some of the Tom and Jerry episodes ar...

2008-02-20T06:39:00.000+05:30

Do you think some of the Tom and Jerry episodes are encouraging eve teasing?

If I love a girl, how should I approach her withou...

2008-02-19T11:49:00.000+05:30

If I love a girl, how should I approach her without being considered an eve teaser?