tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10387075.post8103316053311205846..comments2011-07-17T00:46:28.633+05:30Jnoreply@blogger.comBlogger30125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10387075.post-73340613326759133682011-07-16T22:20:03.604+05:302011-07-16T22:20:03.604+05:30When there is an incident of Eve Teasing.. most of the people around behave like silent spectators and even enjoy when a girl dares to fight back. There is very less moral support and a victim of eve teasing gets looks as if eve teasing is a socially accepted act. I think if eve teasing is a crime, not fighting back and being a silent spectator is also a crime..Riyanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10387075.post-4611289395408834552011-03-23T07:53:10.608+05:302011-03-23T07:53:10.608+05:30In some other countries, ladies wore clothes that no body parts can be seen except the eyes. They practice on believing in this that they couldn&#39;t wear any dresses except for their traditional dress until they get married. They truly respect their women. But in some, sexual harassment is being done to the ladies yet it is punishable by law.indoor bike trainerhttp://www.exercisebikestand.net/Indoor-Bike-Trainer.htmlnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10387075.post-59061463846307632552010-02-08T14:28:48.067+05:302010-02-08T14:28:48.067+05:30Now a days there are lots of restrictions for girls only to save themselves. But if we r fully aware about what is sexual harassment we can easily takle with it. Everyone have their own presonal life without restriction. With the help of pria NGO we can have a wast knowledge about Sexual harassment. It helped me a lot to for my daily life.....sexual harassmenthttp://priacash.org/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10387075.post-25657521064976081232009-04-23T19:37:00.000+05:302009-04-23T19:37:00.000+05:30Gandhigiri as I understand is more than non-violence as very rightly described by 'Coffee boy'.<br /><br />It is the way of making your opponent feel ashamed by protesting in a subtle, satirical and non-violent manner. Hitting out at someone without actually coming to blows!<br /><br />In this particular issue, I guess using phamplets is an effective way where we can have the photo of eve-teasers and distribute it..<br />Also I came through a concept of Gandigiri Cards on one site which I found very creative. Its an initiative launched by Papam (http://www.papam.in/greetingdetailsphoto.aspx?OccassionID=34)<br /><br />Gandhigiri on a whole is a good concept and will work only when we are in nummbers!Geniushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15521942050074487837noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10387075.post-45676395772881641352008-03-25T23:58:00.000+05:302008-03-25T23:58:00.000+05:30@Jasmeen..<BR/><BR/>Isn't that someone supposed to be me?<BR/><BR/>But then, I don't want to do that. Everyone has some idea of what it is. Why not people think based on that?<BR/><BR/>All I am saying is, Gandhigiri can work. I leave it for people to think about that.The Ignoramushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04240119414695022054noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10387075.post-63615666228135089052008-03-25T23:53:00.000+05:302008-03-25T23:53:00.000+05:30someone define 'gandhigiri'.Jasmeenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13512982989981340707noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10387075.post-41426116989582570512008-03-24T23:39:00.000+05:302008-03-24T23:39:00.000+05:30@Coffee Boy.<BR/><BR/>I agree that exchanging ideas is good. But, I want to wait on this particular thing, for one reason. But for LRMB, Gandhigiri wouldn't be so well known today. Gandhigiri is not just about Ahimsa, for if it were only about Non-violence, most of us are Gandhians. Gandhigiri is more than non-violence. Anyways, let me answer some of your questions here. <BR/><BR/>I thought of Gandhigiri in the context of transforming AN eve-teaser into A eve-respecter. I suppose that answers your question regarding group behavior. I concede, that you cannot change that. But then, change of people is always at the individual level, and group transformation never happens, when the change is for the positive. It is easy to brainwash thousands of people to take up arms and fight with one fiery speech (the way Hitler did), but if you need to convince all of them to trun over a new leaf and adopt a cleaner way of living, it has to be at an individual level. <BR/><BR/>This rule applies to everything - corruption, traffic discipline, cleanliness, and so on and so forth. <BR/><BR/>Hence, I am convinced about one thing, that if BNP has to really solve the problem of eve-teasing, it must focus its attention on transforming the despicable eve-teaser, into a human being. One by one. Note down my words here... unless this is done, things won't change. <BR/><BR/>And this is where I feel Gandhigiri can work. <BR/><BR/>Secondly, whether Gandhigiri would work with a person like Hitler. Probably not. But then, not everyone is a Hitler, and not everyone is without conscience. Let me say this, at the risk of opening a pandora's box, I don't feel that eve-teasers who indulge in pinching and groping in crowded places are not so hardended, and so devoid of conscience that they cannot be changed. Please note that they do it in crowded places, which by itself shows that they are cowards, and are actually ashamed to do it. (I know ladies here may not agree) Gandhigiri can certainly work here. <BR/><BR/>For that matter, if you can separate each member of a group of eve-teasers, Gandhigiri can work there as well. <BR/><BR/>The reason I recommend Gandhigiri is that, BNP has to grow. It started off to raise its voice against the evil of sexual harassment. It was like a cry of a baby in pain. But the baby cannot keep crying. It has to grow, evolve, and mature. It has to learn to get what it wants, in a calm, planned way. For that, an approach of confrontation will work counter-productive. A mature, balanced, multi-pronged approach is a must. <BR/><BR/>And, Gandhigiri, I suggest, should be another of these weapons, among the others.The Ignoramushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04240119414695022054noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10387075.post-32495283363764030802008-03-24T05:32:00.000+05:302008-03-24T05:32:00.000+05:30@ Ignoramus<BR/><BR/>Interesting idea. Never thought about it till I saw your post. When you talk about Gandhi's methods, do you mean we should try to appeal to the conscience of eve-teasers? Or General public? Or men in general? Or even other women, considering the fact that some of them are tearing the letters or laughing at them? Or all these groups? (Sorry about the number of questions).<BR/><BR/>I feel Gandhiji's methods will work only if the perpetrators have conscience. Consider, for example, a man like Hitler with almost zero conscience. I seriously doubt if such methods will work on people like Hitler. Fortunately, not many are like Hitler (or at least that is what I am assuming).<BR/><BR/>Forget Hitler. When someone eve-teases in a group, his individual conscience gets suppressed by peer pressure. You will understand what I am talking about if you are a former perpetrator. Appealing to the group conscience is not an easy job.<BR/><BR/>Please let me know what you think. Exchanging novel or innovative ideas is better than keeping them to oneself. What say you?coffee boyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06188570987196114418noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10387075.post-39253422964917834372008-03-23T20:50:00.000+05:302008-03-23T20:50:00.000+05:30I've sent you my idea for the pamphlet. Meanwhile, I was wondering about whether you've thought of going to colleges and gaining some numbers that way.<BR/><BR/>I also think, like someone said before, that we need a broader cross-section of people. What about older women?Suchihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01059475990205112214noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10387075.post-74063723994559775382008-03-23T17:42:00.000+05:302008-03-23T17:42:00.000+05:30@Sakshi<BR/><BR/>Thank you for your response to "Gandhigiri".. when you say, <I>that this sort of a thing only works when there is a full public backing</I>, are you referring to Gandhigiri or to the efforts of BNP?<BR/><BR/>Also, what is your idea of Gandhigiri in this context?The Ignoramushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04240119414695022054noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10387075.post-21614393574410953252008-03-22T00:14:00.000+05:302008-03-22T00:14:00.000+05:30Well... Gandhigiri might work... but I would like to point out one thing... that this sort of a thing only works when there is a full public backing. That is to say: Numbers do have safety in them... in this case... it sure has more effect. What I could make of the whole event was.. that despite everything... the numbers were few. But, I am sure that for the next intervention there would be much more in the offing...we really need get the masses together for this cause... and I think that media can do the work here...!!!Sakshihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13560563322184558228noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10387075.post-44382226355359362282008-03-20T17:00:00.000+05:302008-03-20T17:00:00.000+05:30hie,<BR/>Great blog,<BR/>wrote few about it on my blog.<BR/>Do check it out,<BR/>tshharmangalmuses.blogspot.comTshhar Mangalhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12325557002384888296noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10387075.post-60725213256409704362008-03-19T17:23:00.000+05:302008-03-19T17:23:00.000+05:30thanks suchihemanginihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01994273676586141923noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10387075.post-73631391879064893222008-03-19T13:56:00.000+05:302008-03-19T13:56:00.000+05:30I really like what you're doing and how you're doing it. <BR/><BR/>From my experience, I too think that the material should be in the local language. The pamphlet is well-intentioned but I don't think it is simple enough to get the message across. I think it needs to be simpler and more emotive.<BR/><BR/>I have some ideas that I'll send to you.Suchihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01059475990205112214noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10387075.post-83541474141461519552008-03-18T20:25:00.000+05:302008-03-18T20:25:00.000+05:30Jasmeen,<BR/><BR/>The reason I didn't want to give out the ideas is simple... I want to see if there is anyone else who thinks on those lines, and if they do so, how are they thinking. In case no one has thought of it also, it is fine. I would want to see where thinking on these lines could take us. <BR/><BR/>Why Gandhigiri? <BR/><BR/>Irrespective of what people feel about Gandhi, the fact remains that his method caught the attention of the Indian psyche in a very unique way. Hence, is there anyway of exploiting that facet of Indians to get more persons to consider BNP and its efforts?The Ignoramushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04240119414695022054noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10387075.post-81940343089751619872008-03-18T19:33:00.001+05:302008-03-18T19:33:00.001+05:30also- the pamphlet link is now workingJasmeenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13512982989981340707noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10387075.post-24712320150467743752008-03-18T19:33:00.000+05:302008-03-18T19:33:00.000+05:30you tell us ignoramus.Jasmeenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13512982989981340707noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10387075.post-18964503652541245612008-03-18T16:19:00.000+05:302008-03-18T16:19:00.000+05:30Is there any scope for Gandhigiri in changing a person from an "eve-teaser" to an "eve-respecter"?<BR/><BR/>Any thoughts? Anyone?The Ignoramushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04240119414695022054noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10387075.post-83340846180074706092008-03-18T15:50:00.000+05:302008-03-18T15:50:00.000+05:30im sorry roop rai- almost all comments get published, am surprised yours did not.<BR/><BR/>to answer your question-<BR/>people may tear off the letters for a range of reasons- to deny that it- happens and call it 'rubbish'., the point is that it evokes a strong reaction from the receiver- the person laughs off( denial)- tears the letter(denial) , walks on( indifference) or joins us. it is obvious that the receiver experiences discomfort and is provoked by the content of the letter<BR/><BR/>hope this makes sense?<BR/>just to add- this is the similar reaction from across cities- some people tear off the letter.Jasmeenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13512982989981340707noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10387075.post-22108189070473241412008-03-17T17:02:00.000+05:302008-03-17T17:02:00.000+05:30hmm i did remember leaving a comment here but i don't see it anymore. my question was ... why did those girls rip the letters? i hope this comment will be approved by the blog author.Roop Raihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04851262795909138966noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10387075.post-40454901325133429022008-03-17T00:05:00.000+05:302008-03-17T00:05:00.000+05:30and- it is a siren. at 6 30 participants from all cities blew the whistle as they left hte site.<BR/><BR/>incase of situation- the whistle becomes a defense alarm and a siren for alert./ to draw attentionJasmeenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13512982989981340707noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10387075.post-15722841507640688632008-03-16T17:37:00.000+05:302008-03-16T17:37:00.000+05:30for in case something untoward happens. the whistle is blown and the group gathers around the person who caused the alarm. sometimes they all surround him.hemanginihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01994273676586141923noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10387075.post-35656860359356535332008-03-16T07:38:00.000+05:302008-03-16T07:38:00.000+05:30Hey, one more thing. What are the whistles for?coffee boynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10387075.post-58387894224791129592008-03-16T07:30:00.000+05:302008-03-16T07:30:00.000+05:30I am unable to view the pamphlet. I tried using Firefox and Internet Explorer on multiple computers. Please try to fix it. Thanks.<BR/><BR/>Regarding the letters, I have a suggestion - I think they have a mild upper class bias. (I am NOT accusing you of classism. Please read ahead to understand my intent.) You are talking about girls wearing shirts, jeans, skirts or shorts - a phenomenon which is more common among the relatively upper class. To balance it out you might just want to include salwar kameez and/or saree. The fact that even girls wearing traditional Indian dress (like salwar kameez) get eve-teased, might make even a shiv-sena moron think. Actually, I personally knew some male morons who thought that if a girl wears "man's clothes" (i.e., shirt & pants), she is automatically "asking for it" EVEN if she is completely covering herself. For such people, if they are told that even girls in salwar kameez are teased, then they "might" have a change of heart.<BR/><BR/>Of course, ultimately I leave it to your wisdom since you people are more experienced. <BR/><BR/>PS: Good to hear that your next intervention is in 3 weeks.coffee boynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10387075.post-39817414340923069202008-03-15T11:02:00.000+05:302008-03-15T11:02:00.000+05:30I could not agree more, and from what it sounds like- in both cities- the people who volunteered to handle it, forgot to do it.<BR/><BR/>Volunteers are at it again. Abhishek has already translated the letters to hindi- or the next one. WE are gong to make sure that for the next intervention is 'perfectly' prepared. We are planning to do another perhaps 3 weeks from now.Jasmeenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13512982989981340707noreply@blogger.com