tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10387075.post5673564135493269167..comments2009-11-03T16:50:16.218+05:30Jnoreply@blogger.comBlogger44125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10387075.post-19986020202748534492009-11-03T15:42:29.548+05:302009-11-03T15:42:29.548+05:30I believe If i find someone looking at me intently, even for a long period, he is NOT likely to be a stalker. We have a certain fascination for fair skin in this part of the world, so just try to ignore it. Bangalore is generally safe even after 9pm but exercise caution with auto drivers, avoid shopping areas in the city centre on weekends cos that&#39;s when the problematic sorts from Bangalore and outwith make their weekly trip.micro sdhttp://www.zoombits.fr/carte-memoire/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10387075.post-73913738931579155742009-10-06T16:08:21.216+05:302009-10-06T16:08:21.216+05:30currently i am in london but i spend a 6 months in india so according to me when you live in india there is a fear in you about bomb blast and any accident like that. YOu are not safe whether you are travelling in bus or train.gamehttp://www.zoombits.co.uk/games/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10387075.post-39136473778075247812009-07-14T16:17:52.473+05:302009-07-14T16:17:52.473+05:30mam.<br />first of all i request u to cteat awerness about eve teasing dialougs in tamil cinema and tv serials which is oppose to women demorasy and equality. in those dialougs consepts it is said that dress is the reason for eve teasing.<br />second thing is some local tamil male domination supportive psychartist doctors opnions.<br />they blame on innecont women victum and dress and make the commeter male escape.<br />these are the situvations in chennai.vignathkumarhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08646592023297766093noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10387075.post-7624547997997408352009-06-22T17:30:21.418+05:302009-06-22T17:30:21.418+05:30Yea, I like this idea. all it takes is blatant acceptance of our bodies as women without fear and it can dispel the worse. If I am fearless about my body and I don&#39;t allow them society to tell me what I need to do with my breasts - hide them, show them - whatever! I believe i create an atmosphere of strength around me. Blank Noise - keep up the good work!Julia Duttahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08846895945401962741noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10387075.post-64549164406702122652009-06-19T13:43:03.412+05:302009-06-19T13:43:03.412+05:30I took up this challenge of unapologetic walking about 3 months ago..I have blogged about the experience..HAve a look..preposterous girlhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10041612223213900437noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10387075.post-15183222359543488032009-06-19T11:32:35.602+05:302009-06-19T11:32:35.602+05:30u know what unnikrishnan, im in kerala now, and the first few days here i hated walking on the streets because even if i didn&#39;t look, i could sense all male eyes poring through my clothes - i tried dressing conservatively and all that, but it didn&#39;t work. i walk without dupattas all the time and it was actually difficult trying to manage one here! ive realised men stare so freely because no one stares back at them. so now i stare at anyone who stares at me, pointedly look them up and down, and it is interesting to note how 95% of these men are so taken aback that they end up being the ones walking with their eyes to the ground. this awareness of what i can do to them makes me a more confident person on the streets. i don&#39;t see why i should dress conservatively to avoid attention, because a large section of eve-teasers i encounter will stare at anything that moves and is female.Ranjanahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08060773452865180580noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10387075.post-59667575225387448952009-06-16T06:02:05.518+05:302009-06-16T06:02:05.518+05:30Are you sure this is such a good idea?? The night time walking is not such a good idea, and even if you do so it might be good to alert the police about this. Maybe you could have groups of women walking together. I really agree with the other points regarding walking confidently and stuff. That will really make a difference. My fingers are crossed and I hope you endeavor is a success.<br /><br />A concerned guy<br /><br />PS - It would be great if NONE of you tried this in Kerala ... trust meUnnikrishnan Rhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02361287705907671916noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10387075.post-8580519662080603282008-11-25T21:04:00.000+05:302008-11-25T21:04:00.000+05:30ve tried some of the points in the list.. i ve always walked confidently and without wearin a dupatta too.. and i ve looked straight into their eyes.. it does feel great.. but i also have the feelin i ve been noticed for it... and im caught unawares by perverts only wen im day dreamin (read: not tat alert enough to notice wats comin behind ur back)...mirunahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08822129595692691760noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10387075.post-89354988435665438672008-11-18T15:53:00.000+05:302008-11-18T15:53:00.000+05:30hi<BR/>im also trying to figure out the contours of this debate... i have often tried to be self confident and unembarrassed about myself when walking in public and i have been harassed too many times for me to believe that my demeanor would be a deterrent to other people. <BR/><BR/>besides if blank noise says you 'do not ask for it', then it's not really about how you are projecting yourself on the street that determines what responses you get.<BR/><BR/>im seeing this event less as advocacy "try this great new walk tactic it will shine your appearance and work wonders!" and more as a sort of playful experiment that encourages you to forget the roughness of the street for some hours and to pretend as though you were out for the first time with no biases and past baggage of experience. so maybe it will not all be pleasant, maybe your defences were all perfectly justified in the first place (hell thats why you created them!), maybe you will never want to walk like this again... but atleast for the duration of this event, you will be celebrating a certain spirit and seeing how it works out when executed.<BR/><BR/>i could be totally off mark with this....hemanginihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01994273676586141923noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10387075.post-71435417543236895992008-11-03T23:52:00.000+05:302008-11-03T23:52:00.000+05:30I appreciate what you guys are doing and I'm sure you must have given it good thought before trying it out and encouraging otheres.<BR/><BR/>Just to clarify - is the whole point to <BR/>substitue <BR/>defensive and angry walking, use of "protective devices" such as phones, bags and dupattas <BR/>with <BR/>confidence, firmness and the ability to repel untoward sexual advances by this kind of confidence and self-belief?akkar bakkarnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10387075.post-78726970933992893722008-10-31T18:24:00.000+05:302008-10-31T18:24:00.000+05:30I think at some point or the other all of us have consciously or in most cases unconsciously have followed these steps/points. <BR/><BR/>I don't want to belittle the effort made here and I also understand what these steps seek to do, to take note of how we behave in a public space. But somehow I can't relate to them. Especially the last point. It has been written about a lot in this section and as much as I want to do it I can't. It's just not possible.<BR/><BR/>On a more positive note, personally after having read this particular post, I have become more conscious of my walk. <BR/><BR/>RitambharaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10387075.post-89518650716391655442008-10-23T17:07:00.001+05:302008-10-23T17:07:00.001+05:30that sounds fantastic- do try and let us know of your experiences.<BR/>i know what you mean when you say that the one without the dupatta makes you feel naked- i remember it being a tough one to try out but I did- and it works just fine. nope. doesnt feel naked anymore!Jasmeenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13512982989981340707noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10387075.post-9643450281251026762008-10-23T17:07:00.000+05:302008-10-23T17:07:00.000+05:30that sounds fantastic- do try and let us know of your experiences.<BR/>i know what you mean when you say that the one without the dupatta makes you feel naked- i remember it being a tough one to try out but I did- and it works just fine. nope. doesnt feel naked anymore!Jasmeenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13512982989981340707noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10387075.post-29865620701202481172008-10-22T16:07:00.000+05:302008-10-22T16:07:00.000+05:30hi, ...im ok to try all the suggestions for/of jay walking and probably doing some all the time.<BR/>but the one without dupatta makes me feel naked!binahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14726238885355996831noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10387075.post-29942521638331492432008-10-20T22:15:00.000+05:302008-10-20T22:15:00.000+05:30thanks marjorie! this one's for you and all those individuals who have been a part of Blank Noise street actions. This list was compiled with the knowledge of your experience and other action heroes experience.Jasmeenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13512982989981340707noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10387075.post-7313685790883344902008-10-20T16:58:00.000+05:302008-10-20T16:58:00.000+05:30I lived in India during 12 months. Some may say that it is nothing compared to living in India all the time. But I experienced eve-teasing almost every day and I tried so many times to find what it did wrong. I tried getting out of the house as less as possible (since it was not safe)when not going to university but it did not prevent eve-teasing from happening. Then i tried to just face it... but i had some very bad experiences. Then my landlady explained that it was all because of my clothes: they were "too nice". So i tried to dress like an Indian girl... dupata, salwar... instead of shirts and jeans... but nothing changed. Then i decided to change my attitude in the street... I probably tried most of the things in the list... but i think the greatest change came when i realized that what i was lacking was confidence. So i started walking straight, without stepping aside when men came towards me on the pavement, looking at people in the eyes in a firm way when i had the impression that someone was tempted to come and bother me, stopping being scared to walk after sunset. Maybe it made a difference, maybe it didn't. But at least i knew i now had the guts not to stay locked inside my house and go out to meet some friends, come back by bus alone at 9pm if i wished. The different ways of walking helped me realise this even though I know the change came from the fact that i gained confidence. At least i was not scared anymore.Marjoriehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13029473865765312783noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10387075.post-77053918718831395442008-10-19T21:44:00.000+05:302008-10-19T21:44:00.000+05:30that is so good to know! do email in and share what you tried out. this form might be useful<BR/>https://spreadsheets.google.com/viewform?key=pXj9QqBrUiZ5eWN3JPPMhMQJasmeenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13512982989981340707noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10387075.post-90818645161580863722008-10-19T20:42:00.000+05:302008-10-19T20:42:00.000+05:30hey this is a great initiative<BR/>i have taken few steps <BR/>and i must say it gives a strange confidence in me to walk on the streets!<BR/>i'll definitely be encouraging others!a-fool-such-as-ihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12430861583330925332noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10387075.post-13910676276049809782008-10-19T17:24:00.000+05:302008-10-19T17:24:00.000+05:30i guess it all boils down to us women collectively implementing these steps... that way, the perverts on the street find nothing unusual in a woman walking confidently... on the other hand, if, on a busy street u find just one girl strolling boldly, it does attract unwanted attention...Suchitahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11366843091848289390noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10387075.post-78212604164230221052008-10-19T16:23:00.000+05:302008-10-19T16:23:00.000+05:30thanks so much feminist review. that was the perfect explanation!Blank Noisehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15706132814047641101noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10387075.post-33389766990791685722008-10-19T10:49:00.000+05:302008-10-19T10:49:00.000+05:30This action is great because it makes the invisible boundaries that women in public spaces occupy visible. It plants the questions of 'why do I not (insert action here: smile, walk alone, not wear a dupatta) when I am in public?', and that is a very important question that many women do not ask. The next question that would follow, perhaps a MORE important question as an impetus to change, is 'why MUST I (insert action here) when I am in public?' Because the second question moves the responsibility from the individual to everyone that makes up a particular society, and in truth, we are ALL responsible.<BR/><BR/>I would also like to say that this is not meant to judge women for their choices. We must all decide what we can and cannot do, what keeps us safe and what may put us into situations that are unsafe. And no one should feel 'lesser than' if she is unable to take some of the more 'risky' actions on this list. Every act of rebellion is a necessary act for change to happen.Feminist Reviewhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01146840036438732265noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10387075.post-17238337199700225212008-10-18T23:05:00.000+05:302008-10-18T23:05:00.000+05:30akkar bakkar- at blank noise we are not saying that a woman is groped everytime she steps out- but yes she feels threatened everytime she steps out. i know how to move about the streets-like a snake, my body moves about on its own- protecting itself. i would almost automatically look down and walk like a snake through the crowds- elbows out, fast pace, looking angry, carrying more bags and things than required- all to protect myself. what would it be otherwise? try it to find out.Blank Noisehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15706132814047641101noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10387075.post-25354300334596656012008-10-18T23:02:00.000+05:302008-10-18T23:02:00.000+05:30amazing greys- the point of this is 'you' as an individual and what happens to you when you try this. the focus is not the person attempting to 'accidentally' push or touch.Blank Noisehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15706132814047641101noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10387075.post-91543541169964553612008-10-17T21:18:00.000+05:302008-10-17T21:18:00.000+05:30how &#39;bout, walk, however you wish to, but ready to knock down anyone who thinks they can bump into you &quot;accidentally&quot; &amp; get away with it. If anyone passes a comment, stop them &amp; say &quot;Come again, i didn&#39;t hear you well.&quot; It works every time.Amazing Greyshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17933242901578313380noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10387075.post-84732738921425514902008-10-17T18:08:00.000+05:302008-10-17T18:08:00.000+05:30My experiences of being eve teased have been irrespective of what I was wearing, whether or not I was walking alone, whether or not I had been singing and irrespective of the speed of my walk. <BR/>There have also been times when I've not been stared at, eve teased or groped. There have been times when I have been. <BR/>So I was just wondering what difference Unapologetic Walking would make.Akkar Bakkarhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17957956378446473961noreply@blogger.com