Comments on BLANK NOISE: From an 'ex- eveteaser'

You changed because you were beaten up and the hum...

2008-09-05T21:59:00.000+05:30

You changed because you were beaten up and the humiliation you faced???

I do believe in the phrase - "Once a thief always a thief"

Anyways, Some background information on you and why did you do the stuff you did would help understanding the Psyche' behind these acts.

and unlike i i, I do believe "who or what kind of people do it" will give more insight...

:)

I can relate to mohnish's anger. I don't know what...

2008-08-04T00:44:00.000+05:30

I can relate to mohnish's anger. I don't know what causes his, but personally I have had bad experiences more than once. I was just out of school, the first time it happened, I didn't even fight back, I still hate myself for that, I was old enough I should have done something, but I was so naive and so stupid, but there were older women around me watching what was happening, nobody said anything, I just stood there humiliated. Now I do fight, still people just stand watch when I scream at offender, some people giggle. I'm sorry I don't feel very forgiving.

@JasmeenI apologize for the words used…will be car...

2008-07-21T14:30:00.000+05:30

@Jasmeen
I apologize for the words used…will be careful next time

As far as anger is concerned I think your initiative too is a product of perhaps a little bit of anger…just that you add value with that anger unlike many of us. Where it comes from I dunno. Any form of injustice, violence, discrimination (list goes on) is enough to trigger the ‘monster’
I am the one who has been sending you those mails to start something in my city (Bombay) I liked what you guys are doing, I personally had a lotta unlearning to do when I first visited www.blanknoise.org and check for updates practically on a daily basis.

Coffe Boy, It is ok, No apologies required.@Mohnis...

2008-07-21T14:05:00.000+05:30

Coffe Boy,
It is ok, No apologies required.

@Mohnish,
I never really realised that people have such a hostile feeling towards offenders. I think you have some bitter experience.

But don't u think that people who have realised thier mistakes and want to mend way should be given a fair chance? If you had a friend like me and you come to know that he was an ex-offender, would you still accept him as your friend

I dont like to not publish comments but I am curio...

2008-07-21T06:08:00.000+05:30

I dont like to not publish comments but I am curious to know where your intense reaction or anger comes from-
this is to mohnish.

Well, I was playing too…just being a lil friendly ...

2008-07-21T00:52:00.000+05:30

Well, I was playing too…just being a lil friendly that’s all.

As far as the attitude change it was, is and will always remain “hang them (all the pervs, rapists etc) by their balls

Using anesthesia to castrate? Wheres the fun???…I say rub some salt on the wound …

on a more serious note red chilly powder ;

@ MohnishNo, I am not "ashamed". I am "coffee boy"...

2008-07-20T09:59:00.000+05:30

@ Mohnish

No, I am not "ashamed". I am "coffee boy" who is sometimes too lazy to type in his name. And please relax because that comment was supposed to be friendly humor. Just couldn't resist some mischief. :)

On a more serious note, how come your attitude towards "ashamed" underwent such a tremendous change that you recommend castration? By the way, if you want to forcibly castrate me, please give "yours truly" some anesthesia before doing so.

I owe an apology to "ashamed" for the mistaken identity.

@anonymousarent you 'ashamed'? or just another si...

2008-07-15T23:46:00.000+05:30

@anonymous

arent you 'ashamed'? or just another sick potential predator

either way castration is what would shut you both up

@ mohnishyeah, we are all dying to seek your forgi...

2008-07-12T08:01:00.000+05:30

@ mohnish

yeah, we are all dying to seek your forgiveness.

@ashamed thanks for sharing ...takes a lot of cour...

2008-07-12T02:57:00.000+05:30

@ashamed
thanks for sharing ...takes a lot of courage to admit what you did was wrong
however doesnt completely negate your past ...sharing this is only the 1st step ...u have a lot to do to make up for what u did which m sure u will...

sorry i aint that forgiving

If u have any specific questions for me, u can dir...

2008-07-07T02:16:00.000+05:30

If u have any specific questions for me, u can direct the questions to Jasmeen, who in turn will get in touch with me.

not satisfied with the questions or the answers.

2008-07-05T15:44:00.000+05:30

not satisfied with the questions or the answers.

Very thought provoking. For a man to eve tease wou...

2008-06-26T12:28:00.000+05:30

Very thought provoking. For a man to eve tease would take no guts, but to confess, would.

ii: I am not sure whether your post is for me or f...

2008-06-22T07:22:00.000+05:30

ii:

I am not sure whether your post is for me or for Jasmeen. My comment was more in a light-hearted tone. While you are right that it took public humiliation for the transformation in this case, I don't understand why you call it hypocrisy.

Hi I am 'Ashamed', the person who gave this interv...

2008-06-21T23:00:00.000+05:30

Hi I am 'Ashamed', the person who gave this interview. I can see that some questions have been asked about the interview. Let me answer those.

Yes the public humiliation made me quit it. Not marriage.

I am not hypocrat. Please don't call me that. I wanted to help Jasmeen and co to put an end to this menace.

Thanks Jasmeen for publishing this interview. Sorry we could not fix up a time to do a detailed interview.

I've emailed jasmeen (long back) some of my modus operandi (when I used to do it). This might help us get some insight into the minds of eve teasers.

Hi, this is 'Ashamed' the person Jasmeen interview...

2008-06-21T22:56:00.000+05:30

Hi, this is 'Ashamed' the person Jasmeen interviewed. Let me answer some of the questions that have come up after the interview.

The public humiliation given to me was that I was beaten up badly by the public on an overnight bus journey. I turned a new leaf after that and not after marriage.

Please do not call this blatant hypocrisy. I changed and I want to help Jasmeen and others to bring down the occurance of eve teasing. I am trying to help here and not trying to find publicity for myself.

I would like to thank jasmeen for publishing this. We could not fix up a time for a direct interview. so this was done hastily by email. I am always available to answer your queries. I've sent some info about my modus operandi (when I was doing it) to Jasmeen. This might help us knowing the mind of the eve teaser better.

It's not abt who or what kind of people do it. It'...

2008-06-21T21:06:00.000+05:30

It's not abt who or what kind of people do it. It's about how much time and effort it would take before some significant improvement shows up.

Maybe it's just a rant, maybe it's a random crib... but it IS a true picture, isnt it?

hey coffee boy- welcome back!ii= ofcourse he could...

2008-06-20T13:30:00.000+05:30

hey coffee boy- welcome back!

ii= ofcourse he could be anyone-single, married, 13, 19, 30, 24, 50, 59., 80 years- with loads of money, with no money..

anyone- with the desire or the intent or the belief that it is ;ok' / ' normal pure fun to do so will'

it could happen in groups- like in the video below. it could happen secretly- like in the interview above. the nature of the harassment/ violation is ofcourse different in both places

Is this the same person who visits this site using...

2008-06-20T05:07:00.000+05:30

Is this the same person who visits this site using the name "ashamed"?

To ii: There are many eve-teasers who are married. Of course, the guy with the ultimate character would be a non-impotent fifty year old virgin who doesn't eve-tease girls. :) (Did I miss anything?)

PS: Nice to be back here after many days.

http://blog.blanknoise.org/2007/10/wooing-on-stree...

2008-06-19T20:47:00.000+05:30

http://blog.blanknoise.org/2007/10/wooing-on-streets.html

Call me a pessimist but all I see here is blatant ...

2008-06-19T09:31:00.000+05:30

Call me a pessimist but all I see here is blatant hyprocrisy!

I know, I know... coming out with an honest confession and all that.

But come on, it took something as big as public humiliation (and marriage) to stop one guy. (I begin to wonder which of the two, actually)

What about half a billion others?

Inviting Documentary FILMS for SOCIAL CHANGEZoom i...

2008-06-18T16:49:00.000+05:30

Inviting Documentary

FILMS
for
SOCIAL CHANGE

Zoom in on a mode of living…

Give a voice to people’s struggles and triumphs…

Defend the basic human right of freedom to livelihood…

Economic Freedom

Capture social -cultural norms, legal - regulatory barriers that prevent people working in the vocation of their choice and send us.

ENTRY CLOSING ON: JULY 15, 2008

Prizes: Worth Rs. 2 lakhs
(Including support for advocacy campaign based on the film)

Apply now: www.jeevika.org or www.ccs.in

Entry Rules:
- Two DVD copies.
- Open to ALL filmmakers (student, amateur & professionals).
- Any language with English subtitles.
- No cut off date on entries.

Jeevika, a South Asian documentary film festival on the issue of livelihood, is a search for documentaries that focus on legal and regulatory restrictions as well as socio - cultural norms and religious practices that prevent or constrain people from earning an honest livelihood in the vocation of their choice. It is a part of an attempt to bring policies in focus which have not been liberalized and keeping entry level professions under License Raj, thus keeping a nation under imposed poverty. Livelihood is a common issue that touches all other issues including poverty human rights, governance, labour welfare, tribal rights, minority rights, women empowerment, health, globalization, privatization, environment, agriculture, hunger and many more.

For further details please contact:
Mr. Manoj Mathew
Phone: 91.11.2653.7456 (10am-6pm IST)
Log on: http://www.ccs.in/jeevika/index.html
Email: jeevika@ccs.in

CENTRE FOR CIVIL SOCIETY
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a decent man indeed.

2008-06-18T16:06:00.000+05:30

a decent man indeed.

It would also be interesting to know what sort of ...

2008-06-18T14:35:00.000+05:30

It would also be interesting to know what sort of punishment was given...to understand what level of intervention works...

Wonder if we can find that out?

dilip- I just added a line after reading your comm...

2008-06-18T14:22:00.000+05:30

dilip- I just added a line after reading your comment...
The answers are not meant to be seen as absolutes or solutions. It is but 1 person's experience. Whether 'public humiliation or punishment' always works is for us to find out as more men write in.